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Single and Satisfied?

“You’re single? You’re not having fun with your life then!” …. This is a statement someone actually made to a good friend of mine when she mentioned she wasn’t seeing anyone. We live in a society that places relationships on a pedestal- from celebrities (Jay and Bey? KimYe?) to presidential couples. Truth is, people love love!

Its not at all strange- love is something the human heart longs for because we were created to love and be loved. We were made to be in fellowship with each other and to be in constant communion and relationship with our Heavenly Father. Sadly, most people are seeking this perfect love from deeply imperfect beings. There are so many pressures on people from not only from society to find someone or get married or have a ‘boo’, but also from within themselves.  This shows how careful we need to be about how these pressures influence our decisions.

As someone who used to be on the search for ‘the one’, I think I can confidently speak on this from my personal experiences. The other day I was with some old friends for a birthday gathering, and one of them announced that she was sure I would get married early because every time she saw me in the past (after long periods of time) I’d be dating someone new. Guilty as charged. Was I a serial dater? Probably not that bad. But it dawned on me how much Jesus has really saved me from. It really is a stronghold that’s on so many people’s lives: that constant search for fulfilment in another human being. Trying to ‘find’ the one who you’d spend the rest of your life with, and hence giving every ‘sorta kinda right’ guy a chance, in the hope that he’d be ‘the one’. And if not, trying to make him the one. Needless to say, these situations always end badly. being single

Because of His infinite mercy, God broke that stronghold in my life, and everything that came along with it. Truly, whoever the Son sets free is free indeed [John 8:36]. He showed me that I didn’t need a significant other to feel happy. He showed me that all I need in life is Jesus. That He is in fact, the one. Once God opened my eyes to this, I began to receive all the joy, peace and happiness I had been searching for. I didn’t realise how broken I was, till He raised me to life.

So, here’s where this is heading. Do you find it difficult to accept singleness, let alone to be thankful for it? Every period in your life is a season. And here’s the thing about seasons – they have to come because they are crucial in the growth process, but they will most certainly pass. Whatever season you’re in is a blessing. And believe it or not, singleness too is a blessing. At this stage, I’ve for instance realized that I’m able to focus on one of the most important qualifications for my future career; I’m able to focus on and enjoy God alone, and grow in Him; I’m able to make new friends and have the time to love and serve them (instead of spending all my time on a significant other). I’ve learnt to entrust everything to God. I’ve realized I can live, laugh, travel and savour all of God’s presence without any romantic attachments. I’ve learnt not to spend all my time wishing all my current blessings away waiting and hoping for the next thing. I’ve realised that I need this season to grow!

If you’re struggling with discontentment in this area it may simply be time to give God full control. Take time to thank Him for your season, because the key to contentment really is gratitude. Stop filing voids with the attention you’re getting from the opposite sex, that’s temporary. If you don’t see yourself with that person, why waste your time and theirs? Become satisfied in the Lord. Ask Him to open your eyes to what you need to be doing with your time at this at this stage and His purpose for you. Wait on Him and you’ll get there when the time is right.

 ‘for I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances . I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength’ [Philippians 4:11-13]

***Thanks for reading! For some godly advice and encouragement on relationships, dating, marriage, singleness etc, visit Heather Lindsey’s blog, founder of the Pinky Promise Movement (ladies) and Cornelius Lindsey’s blog, founder of The Oath Movement (men) . God bless you!

 

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The Lord Delights in You

Do you realize that the creator of the universe loves you with an unconditional, expansive, mind-blowing love? Many times the phrase ‘God loves you’ becomes cliché. We hear it all the time so we forget the magnitude of that statement.

Zephania 3:17 says, ‘The Lord your God is with you, the Mighty Warrior who saves, He will take great delight in you, in His love He will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.’

I came across this passage, along with the following in my Bible reading plan the other day: ‘Your Lord delights in you. He loves you with an everlasting love. You are the apple of His eye, and He is looking forward to spending eternity with you. You have been created in His image, designed to reflect His glory and to love Him forevermore. He promises to be with you wherever you are, to never leave you nor forsake you; there is no place that you can go that He is not there.’

Isn’t that an awesome reminder? So many people are walking around searching for a second-rate love, when Love Himself is waiting for you to open your heart up to Him. I was there once- and I can testify that nothing and no one can bring peace and satisfaction like Jesus does. Not money, not a spouse, not fame or popularity or possessions. Just Jesus.

I love how David puts it in Psalm 63:5– ‘I will be fully satisfied as with the richest of foods; with singing lips my mouth will praise you.‘

There is something so significant about praising God in whatever circumstance you are in. Full satisfaction lies in knowing and remembering that we have everything we need in God alone. When you feel yourself wallowing in discontentment, make a decision to give thanks your maker- remember that He too, dances and rejoices over you. He’s already perfected all things, and has seen the end even before the beginning. Rest in Him.

 ‘as it is written, no eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love Him’ [1 Corinthians 2:9]

***Shoutout to Umar for also inspiring me/this post with the amazing song above! Check out @threadstonerox on twitter to hear more uplifting music, along with his mad guitar skills. They are also currently working on a new album, so keep an eye out!

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WLMVT Interview on Contentment (Part 1)

Hi Everyone! After a bit of a hiatus, we’re starting our July theme of “Contentment” with two parts to an interview. I met with a good friend (and pretty much a ‘big sister’) of mine, to hear her thoughts on contentment in the Christian walk. She shared her personal experiences and we talked everything from love and marriage to what happens when your dreams and goals don’t happen as you wished. Read Part 1 below 🙂


1)   The Bible says “For in Him dwelleth all the fullness of the Godhead body and ye are complete in him, which is the head of all principality and power.” [Colossians 2v9-10]. What do you think it means to be ‘Complete in Christ’:

O*: I feel like I might have heard that quoted somewhere before. My understanding is that being complete in Christ would mean that with Christ everything that you are, everything that you want, everything that you know, everything that is you…is vested in him. No matter what you want, no matter what you need, He can do it for you. I would like to take it to mean like they say, that the ‘Bible is the living word’.

For every situation you could potentially face, and every situation that could potentially affect you or yours, there is a word in there for you and therefore there is a God that can be all encompassing for your life. Even in things that you take for granted.

I had this roommate once when I was in Ife. She was Muslim her name was Kuburat. She had this little book that she read of little prayers and I asked to see the book. I looked into it and it had prayers for every situation. We [Christians] believe in grace a lot. We believe in the grace of God because of the death of Jesus Christ. So we say one prayer and because of that…even if we don’t pray for a lot of specific things it is covered by the blood of Jesus.

From what I understand, in Islam they believe that they have to pray for everything so even for something as small as going to the bathroom or pooping – there was a prayer for it in Kuburat’s book. Now, we take that for granted but people have died because they weren’t able to eliminate waste. But I believe this scripture covers everything; even things as small as the ability to go to the bathroom, hair growth (the bible says every hair on our head is numbered, He knows).

Therefore I believe that the fact that the above scripture’ goes as far as pointing out that, He (Jesus) is the head of the principalities and powers means all situations are covered- we are aware that there are principalities and powers but there are things we do not know and don’t even think about. And not just the obvious like ‘oh God I need money to eat’ or anything else. But I believe that outside of the things that are obvious to us, we are complete in Him and for things we don’t even see, for things we are not even aware of, for spiritual battles, He has covered it all, is what I believe this scripture means. We are complete in God.

2)   So you mentioned that God is all encompassing and everything we need. What advise would you give to someone who doesn’t know this? For someone who feels generally dissatisfied with everything and always feels like they need and want more. What practical advise would you give to them?:

O: I will be honest with you- it is easy to say because we believe in God, things are simple or easy. They are not ‘in fact’ always simple or easy. However, I believe that the Lord does not give us anything that we cannot overcome. So, from my understanding of your question, there’s probably at least two facets to it I will answer as thus.

Now, for a person who keeps desiring more, that is another aspect of this question, which is probably an issue or spirit of not being satisfied. That is not just a ‘can God provide for me situation’, it is more of ‘I’m not satisfied with what I have’. That in itself has to be solved, or settled within themselves- it’s a spiritual issue. And usually that stems from problems of insecurities, fr7299826_f260om what I’ve seen. For instance, a person who wants more and more clothes, because they want to hang out or ‘feel among’ or feel good enough to be with the ‘cool kids’ has an insecurity issue. That’s an entirely different thing they need to sort out.

But then if its just a situation of, ‘can God provide for me?’, what I have seen thus far (and I’ll use an example from my life) is that, you do not necessarily have to know or understand God’s plan for your life, but He does not lie. And so, I know that if you are in God, the Bible point blank tells us that, the God that provided for the birds in the air will provide for you.

I moved back to Nigeria a few years ago and I reached a stage where I felt like I didn’t want to rely on my parents for every little thing. I don’t like to really talk about it, but I have a lot of qualifications and my very last degree that I studied, I borrowed the money from the bank in the UK for the course.

They say when you want to make God laugh you set out your plans, and I had this whole thing mapped out of how I was going to pay back and this and that and it didn’t pan out especially because the economic crisis kicked in, in the UK. I was like look, in Nigeria they like foreign degrees and foreign experience and I had had the opportunity to work in one or two legal practices, I had worked at the United Nations in New York . I had done a lot of things I was like there was no way I won’t find a job in Nigeria. But then ..man proposes, God disposes. So, I went back to Nigeria and finding a job was really tough. My parents were fairly influential at a point and I thought that at least they would be able to pull some strings. But it wasn’t as easy as I thought it would be. My parents were retired, the people they knew were also retired so I thought to myself, how would I survive.

I promise you, every week like magic I would get 10 grand out of nowhere from one person or the other without even asking. Once in a while maybe 70 or 90 grand so I was sorted the savings I had in the UK went into my repayments.

So I stand and I testify, that the God who provides for the birds in the air would provide for you. I was covered for the things I needed.

I can honestly say that a person who is questioning whether God would provide for them should know that they would at least eat; it might not be the most expensive food from the trendiest new place but they will eat.

On the other hand for those who keep wanting and wanting- that’s a spiritual matter and you go to God in prayer. A lot of people don’t even realize they have this issue. They may have a new or functioning car at home but they think to themselves.. why cant I have the latest new car. That is just a spirit of dissatisfaction or greed or vanity. [To be continued]

 

***Thanks for reading!  Stay tuned for Part 2 to read O’s thoughts on love, marriage and being content in the waiting. If you feel anything in this interview will bless someone you know, do share the post. Also, subscribe, comment below and follow us in Instagram (worldlightmvmt).

*This Interview was anonymised for the sake of privacy